Let’s reframe this nonsense as intuitive introverts everywhere and get this changed in 2021.

I create my version of change on this immediately by reframing the words to serve my benefit as a creative, curious whole introvert and proud.

What would you reframe the words as for you?

Brooder to broader

As in-depth of thinking and perspective.

Egoist/egotist to selfless

An advocate of self-belief and prioritises self-care.

Loner to the free thinker

One is comfortable with their thoughts and emotions hence the depth of thinking and perceptive skillset mentioned above.

Narcissist to an empath

I have been called this before by folk who seemed to dismiss me when I learned to look after myself first as a priority and regain my health and wellness after 12 years of chronic…


Are you a mid-career professional considering a career transition and want to build an exit strategy?

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Here are some simple self-coaching prompts to work on in your own time.

1. How many hours a week do you want to be working?
2. How much money do you want to be making?
3. How much money can you live on?
4. What lifestyle adjustments will you need to make?
5. Do you want to be employed or be your own boss?
6. How do you want to spend your time?
7. What kind of people do you want to surround yourself with?
8. Where do you want to be living? ( city, countryside, downsize from home to apartment etc.?
9. What do you want to…


20 Powerful prompts to help you find direction when you don’t know where to start.

Making a career change can be scary but asking yourself the right questions before you proceed is the starting point to help you get over your career change fears.

Simple questions enable you to take action. They can hold you accountable to make small but bold steps in an exciting new direction. Even when what you don’t know what to do or where to start.

Here are 20 powerful prompts to help you build the courage to get over your career change fear. Prompts that I have used myself to self-coach in my career transition.

  1. What are the current blocks…


Career reflections from my forefather.

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My dad gave me this sketch of my grandfather yesterday. It was sketched by Thomas Ryan on the 20th October 1981. He was the acting President of the Old Dublin Society at the time.

It’s his legacy. I’ll practice the sketch in my art class until I bring it back to life again in his memory. My Grandfather had a fascinating career. He also had a side hustle, writing and history.

He worked his way up from being a waiter to management in the Savoy, Metropole and Royal in Dublin. The man was an introverted socialite.

A people person, gentle…


How to make yourself irresistible to a consulting client and double your salary within a year.

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Are you are starting out in your consulting career for a global consultancy firm or a mid-career consulting professional?

Do you want to make yourself irresistible to the client and increase your worth?

Consulting is not a 9-to-5 job. It offers a distinct career path, along with challenges and opportunities you won’t find in a normal corporate firm.

I often hear my consulting career coaching clients describe the 4 C’s of consulting to me.


Some brutal truths and steps to help you move towards what matters most.

Woman holding coins in her hand with a piece of paper stating make a change
Woman holding coins in her hand with a piece of paper stating make a change
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How will you make enough money to change your career? Because trust me so many people want to do it but never actually manage to make it a reality. Here are some brutal truths and steps to help you move towards what matters most. I can tell you from my life and work what matters most for so many is living aligned with their values and purpose.

Without a shadow of a doubt, these are the two main things that cause so many professionals career conflict and personal upheaval and stress.

Darren Hardy once said:

“Nothing creates more stress than…


Marriage is one of the best personal development course I’ve ever taken.

grayscale photography of man and woman draw heart on sand
grayscale photography of man and woman draw heart on sand
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I asked my husband to marry me on Valentine’s day in 2002. We are 26 years together.

I can’t remember if I proposed or told him he had to marry me and make a decent woman out of me!

On this day in 2003, he finally married me.

Ed is my best friend, mentor and guiding light. It’s been one journey of highs and lows in sickness and in health literally.

But we made it.

We have rules for resilience. It’s been 26 years of the best personal development course we have ever taken.

Here is what it taught us about leadership:

1. Be strong

2. Be kind


Are you career conscious?

Man sitting on blue sofa reading a book
Man sitting on blue sofa reading a book
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What is it that makes us a conscious career professional anyway? Here are 10 questions that you can ask yourself today to add career consciousness to your professional leadership skillset.

1. Do I speak with integrity, lead with my unique self and hold myself accountable?

2. Do I listen to my head and heart?

3. Am I fully present with my thoughts and emotions in my life and career?

4. What and who do I allow to influence me?

5. Am I intentional and deliberate in taking action in my life and career?

6. What do I consistently do to…


Self-awareness and self-preparation enable success.

The ability to self-coach and ask yourself questions before any important meeting will help you stay grounded. It will enable you to show up calm and confident and make you stand out in many positive ways.

It also helps you find out things you need to know to make informed decisions that benefit your life and career. In short, assertiveness is attractive. It shows initiative and genuine interest. People respect people who are proactive.

The type of people who prepare and do the self-development work needed to succeed. They gather the research and evidence they need to show up with…


Self-direction enables success.

Woman climbing rocky path on mountain side
Woman climbing rocky path on mountain side
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I will find my own path even if it means I get left behind. I’ll catch up on my own time and on my terms. I was in my thoughts climbing at the weekend as my husband pushed on ahead.

He advised me to come down a certain path. So being obstinate I said…

“ No, leave me to my own path”

I advised him to go on and grounded myself determined to find my own way. A route that worked for me.

Naturally, he was directing me out of his humanness and concern for my fused spine. But we…

Pauline Harley

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